Melissa's "Psychology Today" blog

Stimulant medications are controlled substances. Should adults with ADHD be worried? Here's what the research suggests about rates of addiction and stimulant medications.

Stimulant medications are controlled substances. Should adults with ADHD be worried? Here's what the research suggests about rates of addiction and stimulant medications.

Why don't we admit that the hype around Valentine's Day sets many couples up to 'fail?'

This could be one of the most common mistakes that partners make: taking on too much of their partner's responsibilities. It seems helpful but instead hurts you both.

W. Kamau Bell got me thinking about race and creating a color-blind society. Turns out there are at least a few surprising parallels between race and how we think about ADHD.

Marriage research suggests that marital satisfaction declines over time. These habits contribute greatly to that pattern, but are easy to move away from.

We're used to thinking about optimism as something that is a positive force in one's life. But what if it's not?

'Good communication' is the holy grail of relationships, yet many struggling couples seek it in vain. It doesn't have to be that way.

A recent review of the research on ADHD in women can help women, and the partners who love them, live better with ADHD.

Overwhelmed with things to do? Use these strategies to make checking things off your list something to look forward to.

Frustration over how and when tasks are done can hurt relationships in unintended ways. These tips from working with ADHD-impacted couples can help.

"I need you to..." is sometimes a politically correct way to boss a partner around. As such, it hurts your relationship. The key is to be careful.

There’s a reason many adults hate the label ‘ADHD’. It’s cruelly synonymous with ‘incompetent,’ ‘lazy’ and ‘fail!’ to too many people who use it. This stereotyping hurts us all.

A practical approach to getting your ADHD treatment to really work.

"I am who I am" and "I can't change" are more about fear than reality, and don't reflect the science around ADHD.

When one partner stops your sex life it's a cry for help that adds significant tension to a marriage. Resolving the issues so you can make love again takes a sensitive approach.

Some partners think those with ADHD aren't taking their personal or joint marital woes seriously enough. But there may be other things going on.

Moving beyond regret means moving yourself into a different future. Happily, for adults with ADHD and their partners, there is now good information that can help them do so.

These 9 ideas are critical to returning to a healthy relationship with your partner.

The symptoms of ADHD lead to many mistakes for those who have it. But the problem isn't the mistakes, it's how one views them.