Conflicts Around Household Tasks

Relationships can be complex, and when ADHD is part of the equation, some unique patterns may emerge. One such pattern is the "parent-child dynamics," which is surprisingly common in relationships where one or both partners have ADHD. This dynamic can create tension, frustration, and, over time, resentment. But here's the good news—it can also be recognized and transformed into a healthier, happier partnership. Let’s dive into what this dynamic is, how you can spot it, and, most importantly, how to move forward.

The question:

“Both my husband and I have ADHD, it is so hard to maintain the house and have fun together and deal with work. I end up being the one who does most of the planning, maintenance of the house and dog, and I also have a demanding job.  How do we work to have a more balanced life where I’m not so burnt out all the time and mentally fatigued?”

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Over 15 years ago, when I was feeling unhappy in my relationship, my husband asked me what the chore he should take over.  To his surprise, I said ‘do the dishes!!!’  Turns out, I’m not the only one who feels this way. Sharing dish duties turns out to be really important to a whole lot of women.

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Parent/Child is hard to get out of, but you must do so to thrive.  These tips can help you begin.

You don't have to have stuff everywhere just because one or more of you has ADHD!