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Hello, I haven't been on this board for a LONG time.  But I had been very frequent writer here for years.  This site has been a big help for me to have a place to come and write out my venting and challenges with my ADHD husband.  In January of 2024 he died unexpectedly.  I was in denial and didn't trust my thoughts or feelings.  I didn't know what I thought or how I felt other than confused and gob-smacked.  We had been married for 50 years.

Getting back into therapy has already proven to be insightful. Getting to the elephant in the room sometimes is not always easy to do without some help.

Contempt was briefly mentioned, in connection to the past, and it immediately occurred to me what ( at least ) one trust issue has been. Trust, in respect to, men in general. ( men from my SO's past ).

A year after painful divorce from ADD partner I’m working on grief and bewilderment. This forum is vital for the continuously revolving thoughts. Thank you everyone for contributing to it.

This is my first post on the forum. 

Today, my partner (non-ADHD, mid-30s, F) got angry at me (diagnosed ADHD 2 1/2 years ago, mid-30s, M) for not leaving on time for my morning meeting. Later, we talked about it and she had a lot to say. 

Since we realized that my ADHD is affecting our relationship, we have both focused on this part of our relationship and on putting in work to address it. It has been eye-opening for us both. 

Hi, I have two sons, one son and my husband have been diagnosed with ADHD (my husband later in life)…I found this forum by chance because I was googling what to do when you just have such lack of communication…it’s like we are both on cliff edges with a bridge between to help us and he just won’t get on it, or I have to continuously go over the bridge to him.

I can’t bring any of my feelings or thoughts up without him:

Listening but not contributing

Being sarcastic or demeaning

Hello

My partner of 10 years has finally been diagnosed but our marriage remains in tatters. I'm struggling to find a UK based couples therapist who can do online session. This is a last ditch attempt to save our marriage. Any recommendations much appreciated. I've tried those listed on this site but they either don't do online sessions or are currently full.

Thanks

My wife hasn't followed through on any kind of treatment, so things aren't great.

This is the first time I write. My husband has adhd and I don't. We have been seeing a couple's therapist and it is going alright. He admits he has adhd, but he says it is minor and only affects his ability to focus. I think it is more than minor. It affects his organization and planning skills, his irritability and ways he lashes out.  Lately I have been very annoyed at the way he does not keep time in mind. He says I am intolerable of any time delay with him. He might be right, I think it happens so often that have become intolerable.

I cannot say this suddenly happened over night, in fact, it's been coming most of my adult life. It's taken years of therapy and my own self reflection ( and a decent memory ) to pull this all together. I feel at this point in my own self awarenes that I can finally answer many of my own questions due to having a complete picture. It also comes from trying my best to take responsibility for what is mine, and rejecting the parts that aren't  ( even when someone else is telling you they are ).