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First a little background. Within the past few years, both my wife and I have been diagnosed as having ADD. I’ve been more active in seeking help with “fixing” some of related aspects of my life than she has with education, medication, and counseling. Lately I’ve felt like I’ve been bogged down on making any progress and have slipped back into some of my old habits like clutter, too many projects started at once (and not finishing them), dropping the ball or being forgetful on important things, and I’m back to a general “fly by the seat of my pants” approach to things.

My wife and I are both ADHD and both recently diagnosed, which has helped explain a lot. Through prayer, stubbornness and Omega 3 we are just beginning to figure things out. Yet if ADHD in marriage were a sport, I'd certainly be playing defense. I am laughing about it now, but I had to take the day off work to write the following to my wife explaining another incident. I'm sorry it is a bit lengthy, but I thought I'd just post in entirety what I've written her.

Hi everybody, I need some advice about financial organization. Both my husband and I have been diagnosed with ADHD, which means that we both procrastinate mightily when it comes to paying bills and doing other financial stuff. It's incredibly frustrating to make the same mistake over and over and over, not to mention expensive as I have to pay late fees that I wouldn't have to if I'd paid the darn bill on time.

I am a non ADD spouse entering into our 19th year of marriage. We have had major communication difficulties right from the beginning, and LOTS of marriage counseling. We ended up separating in our 13th year. It was during this time that I came across a one page article entitled ‘Can your marriage be saved?’ The husband was ADHD. WOW! That article explained my husband to a T, (he’s ADD) and has also helped me understand what was holding back our son. My husband moved back home 3 years later, and we have both made a concentrated effort towards reconciliation.

Hello, I'm starting to lose home in my marriage. I love my wife very much and we have been married for a little over a year. She is diagnosed with ADHD and is confident in talking about it and feels she is in total control of its symptoms. She is taking Adderall and has been for long before we were married.

I've been married for a year to a wife with diagnosed ADHD (since childhood) who is very comfortable with her diagnosis and feels she has a very firm grasp and control of her condition. It has become one of the scenarios discussed elsewhere ... since we have moved in she has never cleaned up her things, she is still unpacked from a trip 2 months ago. I do everything I can to keep everything I own put away and clean. We made a job list a few months back of who is responsible for what. I do mine consistantly and to her nagging specifications, she has yet to do the bulk of her jobs.

Hello! I would like to get contact with other women who has ADD/ADHD or men who is together with a woman who has ADD/ADHD. I´m from Sweden and I´m 37 years old and have just discovered that I have ADHD. I eat no medication yet and I´m in the process of a diagnosis. I´m afraid to tell my fiance about this, he doesn´t know tha I have ADHD.. We don´t live together so he doesn´t see me all the time, and all the things that I do... I have a child, a son, who is wonderful to me. He´s 17 years old and lives with me. // CCS Contact me on this e-mail: [email protected]

Date: Wednesday January 30, 2008 Time: 4:00 pm EST Cost: Free This class will introduce mixed ADHD couples (one partner with, and one without, ADHD) to ideas and strategies that will support them in having a happy and successful relationship. *Because this special teleseminar is being offered in the afternoon a free recording of the class will be available for registered Teleseminar participants. Sign up now at http://www.addclasses.com

I grew up knowing I have ADHD. Fortunately I had teacher who recognized it and I got the accommodations I needed and have managed to be somewhat effective in life using behavior modification. I am not medicated because I tend to not do well with the side effects. I have also been fortunate enough to work in Education, which has given me more opportunity to learn about ADHD. I believe my boyfriend has it severely he has some stung symptoms and a very negative outlook on life because of peoples reaction to him over the years.