GMH: Gross Marital Happiness

I really appreciated the comment about humor and lightnening up. This is really hard for me as I am constantly trying to get everything in order and am learning that I need to enjoy relaxation along the way. Today is Sunday and in the past have pushed myself too far with church, family, and working every third weekend. I was not working today, but went upstairs after church to have some of my own down time and was hit with major anxiety. I struggled with it for a coulpe of hours. When my husband got home and was reading and resting in bed, I went up to talk to him for a few minutes. Then our 2 daughters came up to our room and pounced on our bed. (the dog was trying to help with the dog-pile as well). They are almost 16 and 24 and were holding their mother's (me) face weird and having me say weird things. I was a sport and went along with being goofy or silly. It really ended up being fun and I was laughing at how they were being so easily amused. We all had some good laughs and the anxiety subsided. It really taught me a really good lesson of how I need to not take myself so seriously and my husband would enjoy it more as well. I am one of those ADHD women who thinks they cannot enjoy themselves until "the work is done." It is a not so health model passed down from my mother and she probably got it from her mother. It has taken 3 years with a therapist to learn we need to play along the way as well as work. I also take time to practice piano 1 to 2 hours a day and love it. For some of us, it takes effort mentally or emotionally to make time to laugh and play, but we work better when we find a balance between them.