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Brother-In-Law has ASD and probably ADHD too based on behavior. 

We have often clashed over his argumentative nature, particularly about politics on social media where he thinks that the world can be saved by aggressively berating people with his views. 

Hello all. Wish i had found this site sooner. Even if, i am not sure it would have made a difference. This does seem therapeutic putting into words my struggles with my wife. About my wife... Genuinely a giving, hard working, quirky, sometimes loving, child like woman whom "in the beginning" i was madly in love with. Me, i am the Epmath, the Savior, the do everything to avoid the inevitable EXPLOSIVE, MANIC episodes that have become more and more frequent over time. My wife and i are both 56... Same generation, Same music, Same TV shows, We "click"..

Non-ADHD spouses, how did or have ur partners gotten you to believe in their good intentions again? I struggle with extreme emotions and tend to avoid difficult conversations, but also can get overly fixated on a potential issue and "pick" at my wife until she loses her cool. So that even if it wasn't an issue before it is now. I can't seem to find a balance between these two extremes so now when I don't ask about something my wife assumes it's because I don't care and do not want to know.

Hi all,

Been reading as much as I can about the perspectives of Non-partners (and ADHD partners) on here and it's really heartbreaking but eye opening, especially recognizing it in our own marriage. I though i'd try to reach out the community for ideas on little and easy ways to make my Non-partner feel special and appreciated. So many times I though of extravagant, elaborate ideas and just failed to start or start and then get distracted, or just get overwhelmed. So last few times kept it simple, like hiding notes of appreciation in different places for my partner to find.

Hello everyone,

Happy new year!

I hope you're all well and enjoying your day.

I am in an extremely difficult situation with my partner which is making me unwell as he refuses to understand that he may need some help.

Upon first meeting him 4 years ago there was various comments of difficulties at work, from small inconveniences to him reversing a truck backwards through a garage at the work yard. As it was a new relationship i didn't think much of it and to be honest most things were laughed off. 

But having read The ADHD Effect on Marriage as I imagine a lot of you have, I felt like someone was inside of my head, writing a book about my life. I guess right now, I'm just processing the best way I know how (written). 

It seems that therapy, medication, and books have done little to give me a spouse that treats me with respect and kindness. After tens of thousands of dollars of intervention and years of effort I just have nothing left.  How can anyone be happy living with a person who gobbles up all of the resources and sucks the air out of a room.

While I was in the shower, my wife and teenager got into an argument because the teen was not cleaning up a huge mess that had accumulated under the couch.  Our (nonbinary) teen started freaking out and yelling.