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My wife in 20 years has never helped me.She's 52. I have to cook, clean, do the bills, buy groceries, cut the grass, decorate, take her to her appointments etc for over 20 years. I've never had a meal made for me, Not for my birthday, not for Christmas. Never. She constantly acts like a bratty 16 year old and I just can't get her to be responsible. A few times she's drained our bank account to give her sister money for drugs. I've had to sell our old home and move to a new city because she stopped working 12 years ago. I have no friends nor family here. I get the blame for everything.

Hi all,

I hope everyone is well. I’m here for a bit of advice. I’ve been a long time lurker and also posted coming up to a year ago now about mine and my wife’s marriage. In summary, we separated about a year ago (entirely my doing and my fault, and I take no pleasure in writing that). We’ve been back together since the start of the year. I love her and my family dearly. Almost definitely more than they’ll ever know.

Bit of background -

- We’ve been together for about 8 and a half years

- 3 kids, 1 year, 6 years & 7 years

Hi, everybody! This is my second post here. The first one was a little over 3 months ago about how difficult it has been for me and my husband (ADHD), specially since the baby (1y6m) was born. Thank you so much for all the feedback and advice!! 
Unfortunately, things have not improved since then. We've been seeing a couples therapist, but I don't know if it's helping that much. It's so draining all of this. 
We've been fighting so much, even in front of the baby, which is the last thing that I wanted!! I don't want us to hate each other. When enough is enough? It's been almost a year, and it's only getting worse. We've been together for 20 years now, maybe we are afraid to face the truth... it's so, so sad all of this.
Everytime we fight, it's like we are living in 2 completely different universes. It's madness and it doesn't go anywhere. He says I started the fight, and I say he's the one who started the fight. I say he is being aggressive and impatient towards me and the baby, he says that I'm the one who's being aggressive and etc. 

Our finances are a mess, and I've been asking for our banks infos and etc for almost a year, and he doesn't give it to me, so we might be in debt and I don't even know it! I can't live like this anymore. How can I find the straingth to leave? He is an amazing dad, a truly wonderful person, so it's hard... 

Just experiencing rejection sensitivity dysphoria at it's peak.

A few weeks into planning for divorce, my ADD husband's strange communication patterns are more frightening than ever. At the least hint of criticism, he's furious. 

We both intend to make divorce nice, and fair for each family member. There shouldn't be anything to be afraid of. I've been trying to calm things down.

My ADHD husband frequently refuses to give a clear answers.  A much too common example is when someone invites our family to do something, he will totally not respond or say he has to ask me, then he completely forgets about it.  I feel like it makes us look incredibly rude.  He's the social one so people frequently text or ask him rather than me, and I might not hear a thing about it until a day or two before when they've had to contact him AGAIN about whether we're coming, at which point I may have actually made other plans, and then he decides he wants to go, and I'm irritated at having 

I enter the room he is in.

Him: “What’s up? Aren’t you going to church?”

Me: “I have been feeling nervous and anxious the past few days. I think I will stay  home.”

Him:  Watches TV again.

Me: After waiting for a response that never came or that he heard me.  “I wanted to talk on the patio but it’s really hot outside.”

Him:  After a minute of silence, “It’s 92*

Him: He gets up a walks to another room.

My partner and I have been together for a few years now, and the beginning of the relationship was amazing. They were attentive, funny, charming, and really seemed to care about me and value me in ways I felt and understood. It all started to fall apart and got even worse when we moved in together. I feel like I got tricked into being stuck taking care of an adult child who wont take any accountability for their actions or inactions.

My partner of 4 years left with no warning and blamed his ADHD 

I have been married to my wife for 14 years.

Ok, so I've given up. I'm divorcing my severe ADD husband of 22 years.

I thought I'd feel compassion now. Instead I mostly feel contempt. He's made my life a mess, leaning so heavily on me. It seems not even to have been helpful that I overworked for us. He's just been miserable, lost all his confidence and his health living with me.

He'll probably be better off without me. That thought makes me almost nauseous. As were the hard years all for nothing.