My husband, we've been together 10 years has recently been diagonsed with ADHD (a lot fell into place) but the medication has changed him over the last 6 months.
Not for the better, apart from he does a little bit more around the house in terms of housekeeping, but that's the only improvement.
He also smokes about a gram of weed per day (we live in the Netherlands where this is legal)
I just came across this community and felt like it might be helpful to share my story / current situation. I've been in a 6.5 year relationship with a VERY ADHD partner. We were best friends for almost 10 years before we started dating (since high school)....we have a lot of the same interests, he makes me laugh, is fun, smart, hardworking, and one of my favorite people. However, the relationship has literally never been easy. I feel like we have had to work so hard at it and it's honestly just exhausted me [beyond repair, I'm worried].
Hi everyone,
Looking for input on a problem that resurfaces at least a few times a year between my husband (or possibly more accurately, his ADHD) and me.
So both my wife and I have ADHD.
It's never really been a problem. She became an ER physician (Spend 5 minutes with each patient, high intense) and I'm in IT (Multiple things happening at once and also intense)
She was an only child (center of attention), I was an abused child (never given attention).
I'm an extrovert and she's an introvert
I'm good in numbers, she's good in words and concepts.
When people describe us, they universally use two descriptions.
We are opposites and she is very pretty (yeah, I think it's funny also)
Hello,
I'm in a relationship of a year and a half with a man whom I suspect has ADD, or ADHD, it confuses me what might be most accurate.
Signs include hoarding/disorganization, risk taking, impulsive (showing in insensitive comments and other ways) RSD reactions to any issue I express unhappiness about in the relationship)....
Hi guys. I need some help. I have been married for a year and my husband has ADHD but is unmedicated. He drinks every day, too. Not only is he unpredictable, like I don't know which version I'm getting that day but also I have noticed he created situations in his head. He can be on a work call (we work together) on speaker and he will make comments like "did u notice this person saying "hey" with an attitude? " and no it was a normal hey. If we go out to dinner or have guests over he accuses me of looking at men in a certain flirtatious way or that we exchanged looks or comments flirting.
Has anyone else had therapists that truly don't get how big of a deal ADHD is in a ADHD(him)+neurotypical(me) relationship? Our couples counselor is helpful in some ways but we again asked her for help tonight with navigating the ADHD effect we're dealing with, and she seems to think it's not that big of a deal. I was very clear we know that ADHD-related issues aren't the only problem we have to overcome, and I wasn't saying it was responsible for everything, but it is very front and center in some of our daily struggles, and my partner and I both need help in learning to handle it better.
My husband who is separated from me, if his demands aren't met he tends to very passively do something to try and trigger me. Although I have explained why I couldn't do what he asked me to in a calm way, he then took my 5year old daughter to a hairdressers and chopped half her long beautiful hair which I lovingly spend time keeping it nice and healthy.
I'm 6.5 mths pregnant and struggling with a lot of pelvic and back pain this time. It's difficult to sleep, dress, sit comfortably, walk for more than 30mins etc. My husband (ADHD) and I have been ok for about a year... much better than the horrendously stressful few years that followed the birth of our first child. That's when we started looking seriously at the impact of ADHD on a relationship, and it all made perfect sense.
Hi, I'm new, I'm female and I have ADHD. I've been married to the same man for over 30 years. This is supposed to be where we share what makes us angry, frustrated and sad. I don't know about angry but...Frustrated. My daughters told me that they think our house is gross, that they're ashamed to have people over and my youngest was teased because of the state of our kitchen. I'm doing my best to clean more and to try to fix up the place. But we don't do renovations. We had to renovate our bathroom and our living room when a pipe burst. We removed carpet after the dogs peed on it.
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