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We're a blended family. My partner with ADD and his two girls (12 and 17) and me and my son (14) and daughter (16) moved in together about 6 months ago. The children get on really well, we all do. Lately though my partner has been very strict on my son - and is driving my son crazy - he has very high expectations of my son and my son can't do eneough to please him. My son up until now has done everything he has been able to to be understanding about my partner's ADD, but he has had enough and wants to move out.

This post is intended as a response to a post by "Tom T", in which an ADHD husband is confused about why his wife has left him.  It is also addressed to all the ADHD spouses who still remain clueless about the impacts of the ADHD on their relationships, and are inadvertently driving their spouses to leave them.  Tom is confused by his wife's leaving because asserts he is a good person and thought the marriage was good.

To tom:

I am new to this site and am wavering between relief (that I'm not the only one going through this and that I'm NOT crazy) and despair (that people with many more years of marriage under their belts are continuing to struggle).

Can anyone recommend a reasonably affordable coach? My husband is doing a lot of that "trying but not changing" stuff that Melissa talked about recently. I think coaching would help a lot, and my husband agrees - but keeps balking at the price. Phone and email contact would be fine - ideal, actually.

My husband has begun the process of getting a diagnosis. I'm a little confused and would love some enlightenment. His primary care physician saw him, then asked to also see me. After asking a lot of questions, he said he didn't have a problem putting him on a low dose of ritalin and checking back in 4 weeks.

I've just recently come to terms with the fact that I have ADD.  My oldest son was diagnosed with it a few years ago and ever since then, i knew I had it too.  I never had those thoughts confirmed until I started seeing a therapist to deal with my depression.  I had seen a therapist before who diagnosed me with chronic depression and generalized anxiety disorder and I started taking Celexa.  That ended up being changed to Lexapro.  Anyway, after seeing my new therapist for a while, she said I had ADD and we determined the Lexapro wasn't working so had my medicine changed to Wellbutrin becau

If your spouse does something really dumb because of his/her ADD, can we expect them to be responsible to repair the damage, or should we just "suck it up" like we do everything else?

Like Vivi, I started my initial post as a continuation to an existing thread...sorry.  I have spent the last day and a half reading as many posts as I could on this site.  I am so grateful to have stumbled upon this site.  Finally, for the first time in 18 years, I feel like I am not crazy.  People who are not living with an ADD spouse just can not comprehend what life is like, and how his condition affects literally EVERY  aspect of our lives.  I am lucky that my husband is a good person, a kind person, a loving person who is completely committed to me and our 4 children.  He tells me he l

Let me start by saying I have undiagnosed ADHD, married to a man who was diagnosed as a child. He was also medicated as a child, but stopped taking medication as soon as he turned 18. He's now in his late 20s and we have been together for 6 years. Recently he is taking another look at getting on some medication. He tried 40mg of Strattera daily, and the side effects were horrible. Not only did he not sleep for 4 days (until he quit the meds, thank god) but he immediately because more sensitive, less joyful... just kind of "down." The "down" effect took weeks to wear off.

Like so many of the posters on here I am the sad, frustrated, resentful spouse of a husband with ADD. We are currently seeing a marriage counselor at my suggestion because I found myself reacting to my husband with less and less patience and fantasizing about getting out of my marriage. It just seems like life can be complicated enough without the added daily stress of job loss, money, unfinished projects, depression, mood swings, etc. My husband and I got married relatively young (25) and we have been married for almost four years.