Wife of an ADHD husband desperately seeking help
I'm 31 year old female recently married to my 28 year old husband who suffers from ADHD. He suffers from baaaad anxiety, anger and outbursts, impulses, addictions (both sex and drugs).
I'm 31 year old female recently married to my 28 year old husband who suffers from ADHD. He suffers from baaaad anxiety, anger and outbursts, impulses, addictions (both sex and drugs).
My husband has ADHD and rage attacks, and today he pushed too far and I'm just done dealing. He decided to rage out (for no reason, really none) at our 19 year old son. Our son stood up for himself and husband kept pushing, raging, and eventually got physical. Yep, I had the "pleasure" of watching my husband and my child beating the piss out of one another.
My younger son (how I hate that he even had to be involved in this) and I pried them apart only to have husband continue rage verbal attacks and again get physical. And again we got them apart.
There he was agian, for the tenth time in our four year marriage, standing in the door a box under his arm, with a fearful expression on his face...I knew what he was about to say. At that moment I remained calmed gave him a hug and told him every thing would be ok...it's just a job, you'll find another, like before.
I think this could be a great source of info and sharing once we get posters here.
I have a seven year old son who has severe ADHD. I'm his da and also have ADD - making things more complicated ( or interesting!).
Anyone else here also have children with ADD?
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Singularity shows something wrong in the mind
- Erica Jong
I am trying to figure out what has happened in my relationship and need some advice. My husband left me at the end of March. This came as a total shock to me and to everyone around us. My husband up until a few days before he left was telling me how much he loved me and how I was his motivation. In the recent past, he has lost a job, lost a car he had bought, and when almost getting another job had a setback due to needing his high school diploma. He has since decided he wants to only be responsible for himself.
I am absolutely astonished by this weekend's events. As I sit here and write this, I can feel my shoulder muscles coiling up into that tense position where it feels like they sit by my ears and I don't know whether I am numb or want to cry. I was diagnosed with ADD 11 years ago and with medication and humanistic/behavioural therapy have come to a place where I feel that I have the skills where potentially I could have things somewhat under control with minimal struggle.
This is the first time I've posted. My husband has ADHD. We discovered this after my son was diagnosed. The issue is that I am simply exhausted all the time picking up and organizing everything for the two of them. They help and do their best, but frankly, it's not enough. I'm also tired of always having to repeat myself, always having to give "gentle reminders," and constantly ask them to "let me finish before you start interrupting!" I'm tired, tired, tired! They are on medication and are gentle and well-meaning. Well-meaning isn't enough.
Does anyone else have hygiene issues with their ADD loved ones? When I met my husband at 40 years old most of his teeth had fallen out. (He's not diabetic.) He swore he brushed his teeth every day, but seemed surprised that I do it after every meal.
I pushed him to go ahead and get dentures, now I can't get him to clean them. I can't tell you how much of a turn-off it is to kiss him and get some of last night's dinner in my mouth.