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Can't take it anymore. Need words of encouragement.

I'm not going to write a book but lets say my life has steadily becoming a living hell with my ADD spouse. Unfortunately it took five years of jumping up and down, yelling, and begging  to get him and his parents on board with that fact I thought something was "wrong" with him. He is on medication now and seeing a coach but I have not one ounce of patience, energy, or sympathy to suffer through him while he is going through treatment.

Been ignored for one week while he is in manic state working

My boyfriend of six months is a professional musician.  He has moved beyond the hyperfocus stage, has started detaching and now has gone a solid week without seeing me.  He's called every few days - sometimes after staying awake for two solid days working on a music with an imaginary deadline.  He has new software that he's learned in record time.  I've seen this mania before and it is alarming but this is the first time I've been completely cut off.  His messages keep telling me what an understanding girlfriend I am and that he misses me but he's soooo busy.  

How do I help my in-laws understand my husbands ADD?

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HI Everyone. This site has been a marraige saver for my husband and I. We been together 12 years, married almost 7. Last month we seperated for 2 weeks, niether of us could deal with the other any longer. A bit of hitstory... After years of not feeling loved etc (typical non-add spouse feelings) I had an affair. I deeply regret it, especially once my husband was diagnoaed with ADD. To find out he really wasn't the jerk I thought I had married and that i had done that to him...the guilt is amazing.  Anyway, during our two week seperation he went to his parents for support.

on motivation

here's something i'm currently frustrated about: i have adhd.

to make things worse, i have a girlfriend who thinks my problem is that i'm simply not "motivated".  and i can't can't figure out what the hell that means, because to me it seems obvious that i have plenty of motivation. 

Where do you grab the octopus?

I just found this resource though Dr Hallowell's books are the backbone of our ADD library.  Some of the feelings I'm reading sound SOO familiar, though I have to appreciate that my situation is not nearly so extreme as what many of you are facing.  My heart sincerely goes out to everyone in the ADD predicament.

New member here, just thought I would say hello...

Hi.  My name is Scott and I am a new member of these forums.  I am 32 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD about 6 years ago.  

I just wanted to take a moment to introduce myself and communicate that I am open to answering questions and actively participating with all of you.  I have the same or similiar struggles that others have and I have good days and bad days but I am determined not to let these challenges define a single aspect of who and what I can be.  I welcome your advice and opinions and hope that I can share some of my own.

I look forward to sharing.

link with restless leg and OCD?

hi.  I wanted some feedback on how to better handle dealing with The adhd person and his annoying habits.  My husband has restless leg syndrom, OCD, doesn't know he is singing and he sounds horrible(the kids yell for him to stop when he starts that moose mating call!!), he leaves his things all over the house, is financially irresponsible, yet tells me, "but I have a good heart and I'm trying!"  I feel like a monster b/c we can't even watch a movie together without me saying.."stop biting your nails, moving your legs...tapping on the couch and/or tapping your forehead!" I tell him it's maki

ADHD Wife with housewife issues

I'm a 25 year old woman who has been married for just about a year and a half to a wonderful man. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 6 years old, and tested many times over the years. I've been to see several doctors, tried multiple types of medications, treatments and therapy. Currently I take 30mg of Adderall twice a day, which I hope soon to bring down to 20mg twice a day.

Food intolerance for ADDers

I wanted to let everyone know of a food issue that may help those suffering with ADHD. My partner has been on this diet for just a week but it has already made a huge difference. He is much calmer (now I'm the stressful one waiting for him to flare up again!)

Basically, some common chemicals in foods, including fruits and vegetables, can cause ADD/ADHDers to act up. Salicylates in particular have commonly been linked to ADHD symptoms, and the absence of them (and sometimes other food chemicals) have helped many people.

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