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Male sex issues with ADHD

I'll keep this as clean as possible.  When it comes to having sex with AD/HD, am I the only one that has troubles finishing?  When I was younger, it was cool to last and last and last, but as I have gotten older...and now that I am married, I wish I could hurry up!

I find myself getting distracted.  It wasn't until recently that I put two and two together and realized that the AD/HD, not some god given sexual gift, was most likely the reason for this "problem".

Any hints, help, ideas?  Can you relate?  Anyone?

amazing book

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I don't know where to begin to talk about a book I read the last two days.  it is called "Refuse to Choose" by Barbara Sher.  She's been helping people for years to find their passions in life and to act on them.  She goes into great detail about people she terms

Expectations of non-adhd spouse due to lack of planning from adhd spouse

My husband of 15 years was diagnosed with ADHD two years ago.  We have been to counseling for about a year, but continue to have the same issues.  The latest issue is his expectations of me.  Last night, he approached me at 11:30 at night,when I was already in bed and asked me if he could use my car at 8:00 am the next day for a meeting that he had.  His car was being repaired and he forgot to call the mechanic to see if it would be ready in the morning.  Suddenly he wanted it to be my problem.  I told him that he could not use my car because I had to take our kids to soccer at 9:00 (which

Passive aggressive

When my newly-diagnosed ADD husband and I were at our marriage counselor this week, I was a little surprised at how matter-of-factly she spoke to him about his passive aggressive behavior.

I never thought about it before. And I felt really stupid. He is. And over almost 24 years, I was pulled into the role of, first, the person who didn't want to "rock the boat," and then eventually the person who expressed the anger and bitterness. I was trying to be a good wife. I let him change who I was. Who I am.

The hardest thing about being married to an ADHDer

I have been married to my husband, John who has ADHD and possibly also Asperger's Syndrome for 3 years and we have a 2 year-old daughter together.  Though there are so many struggles being married to someone with ADHD, but I think that the hardest part of all is that most other people don't understand and can't relate.  It's hard when family members and friends turn their backs on you because they think you are just married to a loser, loafer, etc.  It adds so much hurt to someone who is already struggling when the people they love and try to find comfort in give them the cold shoulder.  At

When It Is Probably Time to Say Enough is Enough

Warning: A negative post about ADHD and my hate for it, not my fiance

I officially think I can no longer live with my fiance's ADHD. Even a few weeks ago my best fried, who loves my fiance, made the observation that I never seem happy and that I should consider whether or not I can live with his ADHD.Yesterday I got my answer....

ADHD wife, communication issues

I am a newbie. My wife was diagnosed with ADHD recently and we have been married for less than a year. One of the things that troubles/concerns/frustrates me is that (among other things) she often makes inappropriate comments which many a times sounds awkward and rude. Her comments makes me wonder whether she thinks about what she says. When I ask her about her comments, she says that it is all logical and ok to her and she gives a long winded explanation as to why she is right. Even that sometimes doesn't always makes sense.

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