Recent forum posts (all topics)

For the last 20 years, vacations with my ADD husband have been a nightmare.  I've sworn several times that I would never take a vacation with him again.  We tried taking separate vacations, overlapping vacations, and mini-vacations in order to try to finesse this problem, but none of these were very satisfactory for various reasons.  There are a lot of things we like about vacationing together, so we'd try again to make it work.

Several things that we've implemented in the last several years contributed to the success of this most recent vacation.

My partner and I have been together for over 12 years and she's been officially diagnosed with ADD for about 8 of those.  What I want to find out from others is how you've found the courage to confront your ADD partner about the damage that's been done in the relationship and move to a place where you can go forward.

hi everyone,

first of all i want to say that english is not my first language so forgive me if there will be some errors. this would be quite a long post so please bear with me.

While I have always been thankful for my  life, my husband, three wonderful kids, home and friends, this Thanksgiving is different...My ADD husband came upstairs to tell me he fixed our dining room chair which needed  its legs glued to be usable again.  The chair been in the basement for 4 years, just waiting for this moment....My husband and I  laughed and celebrated together today..over a simple newly glued chair.... The chair is just a symbol of a renewed direction for our marriage and an ADD victory. The glued on this chair is analogous to  a new "cement" in our relationship.

hello:

Hi there!  I'm new to this forum and just thought I'd post an introduction.  I have been with my husband for 16 years (married 7). We have 2 beautiful children - a 2 year old and we just welcomed our daughter into the world about 3 weeks ago.  I don't really know where to begin to tell you about our story.  We met in university and we've been inseparable ever since.  We've struggled through university, struggled over jobs (he's lost 2 and is now self employed).

I have read that ADHD is genetic and often runs in families. Even though my mother has passed on I am convinced that she had ADHD and that at least 1 of my sisters also is ADHD. (My mom was never diagnosed and my sister can't afford to be diagnosed.) Anyway, I wasn't diagnosed until 30 years old because I really never knew anything about ADHD. I could never explain my problems until I read an article in a magazine and it all clicked.

So I've left my possible ADD and definitely Bipolar boyfriend behind.

I'm not sure what came first but the symptoms were so close I wonder if there is a distinct different in terms of recovery. It is unlikely that we will get back together even after he's started recovery as he is an alcoholic. The doctor evaluting him asked if he wanted to continue a love relationship with me and he said he didn't know. It's hard to accept after all the support I've given him and the fact that we have been friends for over 20 years.

I will try to keep this simple. I'm too exhausted to write much. How do I withstand the constant barrage of ideas and brainstorms, and all of the relentless negotiation he pursues with me to try to get me to agree that it, (whatever "it" might be) is a great idea, and i should be on board.

I am fairly new to this site.   I have read numerous posts from Non-ADHD spouses commenting on the lack of sex or interest in sex from their ADHD spouse.  I have the opposite situation.