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Ok, first post, like always just bear with me I guess. I have been married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids.....and well this was the first christmas I did not spend with my wife/kids.

I am 48 year old female on the verge of losing my second marriage.  Recently a friend of mine suggested that I maybe ADD.  She suggested several sites on-line that self test.  I tried several different sites over a two week period and all three I scored HIGH "92" with the recommendation to seek help for ADD.

Hello to you all,

I did discover this site about 5 weeks ago, just as I had decided I had had enough of life with my husband of 20 years......I could go on for ages about him & how I feel like I am a 'single mother of 5 children' instead of 'married with four' etc. etc.

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My ADD husband is required by insurance to have bloodwork done every year in accordance with his physical.  Because he has been changed to a new doctor both for primary care and for his ADD, the new doctor required new bloodwork & he added a special request to check for a Vitamin D deficiency (something apparently not part of the routine screening).  His Vitamin D is EXTREMELY depleted...so much so that we got a call that he is being rushed 2 Vitamin D prescriptions-- 1 enormous pill to be taken only 1x per week and another dosage to be taken daily.

Here's an odd question for the spouses: Have any of you "caught" some of your spouse's ADD behaviors?

When I first met my husband, I was self-sufficient, poised, on top of things, confident, organized, and capable. I wasn't perfect--there was (and is!) tons of room for improvement, and my stress level was pretty high--but I was doing well in my career, I wasn't frantic, I socialized often and successfully, etc.

Well, I just had enough tonight and I left. I just didn´t see any way forward. We had the discussion again about the christmas card (described here, a lengthy entry: http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/not-getting-through#comment-5641). I tried all possible ways to offer an explanation, the easiest one to call my friend and ask why he had taged the envelope with only my name and our sons name. But my spouse didn't want that or any explanation. I was called a liar which I'm not. We had a big fight.

Hi there,

My husband accepts that ADHD is a real illness but thinks that because I can read/play games etc.

So my husband has finally been formally diagnosed.  We're in the middle of trying to get him a med prescribed that we can actually afford (can't afford Vyvanse for $150 a month!!).  But the problem is, my husband still doesn't know a lot about ADD.  He doesn't like reading, and I verbally tell him things sometimes but I don't get too far without him tuning out.  He'll watch videos, has anyone seen a video on ADD?  Or anyone have any suggestions on how to educate him without him having to read a book?  I'm reading Dr Hallowell's Driven From Distraction right now and I love it!  I SO wish my