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Communications Struggles

I'm sure there are lots of posts on this issue, but there are just too many post to wade through.  For those of you have been around awile, I apologize for bringing up what I am sure you have heard many times, but I reallt need some advice.

My wife and I have so many struggles over communications.  Actually, it would be more accurate to say I have many issues with the way SHE communicates.  She doesn't seem to think there are any issues at all, except that I keep telling her I have issues.

The issues seem to be too many to go into here, but three common ones are:

ADHD Husband and his Co-Dependent Parents

Does anybody else have this problem? My husband (of almost 20 years) and I separated for all the ADHD reasons you see on this Forum. He hasn't had a steady job in years, he's says nobody's hiring, he's renting a place that his parents are paying for, and works at his parents' house on construction projects to earn what little money he has. We have two children. I work full time, but it isn't enough money. Recently I decided to look into a part time job nights and weekends since we've been falling behind on bills for about a year.

Unexpected medication choice - Anyone have experience with Mood Stabilizers?

My partner just got his first script and I can't find anything online about it's use with ADHD. Most of the information is regarding bipolar disorder or co-morbid adhd/bp. It is sometimes mentioned in treating kids with agression and ODD. My dh is ADHD inattentive, and was already on Celexa for several years prior to his recent diagnosis. Today they added Trileptal.

Hot Button - Always Stuck Waiting

My ADHD wife and I have been working hard on navigating our differences.  We attended a marriage weekend with Dr. Hallowell.  We've picked up some books like "Driven to Distraction" and "Is it You, Me, or Adult ADD?"  She has gotten a diagnosis and is on meds.  We are working together to put systems in place so that work.  For example, we have followed Dr.

How to alleviate guilt and stay strong?

I'm here looking for encouragement, the kind all of us could use sometimes. My ADHD husband and I are separated right now so he can try to take care of himself for a while and get treatment. Mostly he's trying really hard and doing fairly well. It's great that we are separated, because I don't have the discipline to truly let him "sink or swim" and suffer his consequences when the problems are right there in front of me, or I can see them coming from a mile away. Let me give you an example, and hopefully someone will chime in with some encouragement.

23 years together, 3 amazing children, 1 ADD son,1 ADHD daughter... I thought I was crazy...

Hi Everyone, I cannot tell you what a blessing it has been to stumble onto this site! I sat for hours reading the posts with tears running down my face. It was such a relief to know I was not alone in what I was experiencing. I met my DH 23 years ago when I was 21. He was a young fighter pilot in the USAF and I was an undergraduate student. Like most everyone, our courtship was wonderful. There were no real problems except a few personal things I noticed which I thought were odd. It was these very things that should have tipped me off to DH's ADD.

ADHD explained in a simple, logical way

Hello:

My ADHD thread is:  http://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/find-volunteer-slapper-your-husband-and-reason

I found this site great ADHD Web site.   It explains all about ADHD, especially for adults.  It is something that may help bring peace and understanding to all ADHD marriages.  It has many ADHD videos, including some from Dr. Hallowell.

http://totallyadd.com 

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