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Hello, everyone!  I just discovered this web site today and already I am so relieved: I'm not alone in my experiences as a non-ADHD partner!!!  I apologize if this topic has been covered elsewhere, I tried to find it first before posting.  My question is this: what can be done with an ADHD partner who does not seem able to hold down a job?

Fellow ADDers, I would appreciate some unbiased comments about my situation. thank you.

I am a male with ADD, severe, had a very difficult life in the school and work world. Suffered, lost jobs, lost money the list is long and ugly. The good news is that when my troubles were at their worst and simply unbearable (I was surviving on meds, alcohol and pot) I found out about my ADD alone at the age of bloody 38.

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Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is powerful enough to impact education, careers and personal relationships.

Those with the disorder often struggle with being easily distracted, hyperactive and impulsive. Fortunately, this doesn’t necessarily inhibit a successful life.

Okay, what follows is cliche, but I know throughout my life I probably didn't really hear the message clearly enough to provoke lasting confidence, so I'm going to repeat it.

I went for a job interview the other day. I'd spent a lot of time preparing for it, anchored by the 100 lbs. stalagmites that form in my stomach drip by drip of self denegation as I prep for the anticipatory answer to the "why all over?" questions.

I got the job, actually a grander one than I applied for. I was as surprised as you are.

I am the non-ADD spouse, I have heard many say on this site that the best approach in dealing with issues, especially those which cause anger and frustration, is to set priorities and deal with one issue at a time.  That makes such sense, intuitively.  But I find myself having a hard time picking the one (or two) issues that matter most.  One, because there seem to be so many of them.  Two, because any issue taken by itself doesn't feel like it is "high priority" - rather, it's the cumulative effect over time that might make something a high priority.  And third, because whatever is frustra

I know a lot of you can relate to this, but I wonder if anyone has a suggestion for how to solve the problem quickly.

My husband lost 7 jobs in 3 years before being diagnosed with depression and ADD. He got on meds and eventually decided to work again. Now he has a job he loves. He's a peer specialist working with the severely mentally ill. The job requires a person with a diagnosed mental illness. It gives insurance but even with that we still shell out over $100 a month for his meds.

My husband and I have been together for 13 year, married for almost 3. We are on the verge of divorce and things are not going well. He has always known he had ADD, but always thought if he tried harder that things would get better. I have been begging him to get help for years, and only last month did he decide that he did need help and started taking medication and seeing a psychologist after I told him that if he didn't do something that I would leave him.

Tonight when I got into bed with my laptop I was desperate, at my wits end, could have screamed the place down and then kept running so great is frustration and loss at where to go from here, what to do. Fortunately I put something into google and found this site. I have knowledge, have done a lot of reading and research but there is nothing quite like sharing with those that have been where you are and truly understand.

Georgia O'Keefe 2009 with Joan Allen and Jeremy Irons

The film portraits contrast of the control of inspiration/behavior between a wife and husband, both artists.

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ORIGINAL POST - April 2010