I would like to vote for more careful commenting, for example, not haphazardly stating a forum member's possible medical detail, which may in fact be false. I move fast, and I know I've made mistakes in my wording, but I do try to identify when I'm quoting someone (by using quotation marks) and when I'm writing my opinion or perception.
My husband and I have been separated for almost 2 months. He pretty much abandoned me and all responsibility. I had no choice but to check out and go into survival mode to take care of me. I was left with no choice other then to detach myself from him so that's what I did. Now he's begging to be with me, being the nice, gentle, affectionate, attentive. The man I saw I got glimpses of when we first met.
I need help figuring out how to stay positive and not remark on the negative all the time.
One of the posts on this forum opened up so much for me. I now understand why my wife (the ADHDer) does the things she does. I thought she wasn't interested in me, but I now know that's not the case. She matches ALL these symptoms described by many on this forum. Thank you so much.
I have a couple of questions to try and understand her better, hopefully someone has had a good experience with their ADHD spouse:
I've been struggling the last few days. We actually had a good day Memorial Day, involving more walking than is comfortable for me, but I give in because my husband and dog love it. We don't fight when we're out of the house because there is nothing that is undone.
I have been married for 6 and a half yrs. Last year my husband was told he had ADHD, for him it was what he needed personally, because many things finally made sense to him about himself and the whys of things. For me...I must admit I was skeptical, even wrong. What I mean is that upon learning of his situation I desprately held on to the misconeption that once he got medication that things would miraculously fall into place, that things would get done, I would get consideration from him and that the fights would become less.
My husband and i have been married for almost 2 years now. I am sooo in love with him. Like every other couple we have had our ups and downs. Last year, he wasnt sure if he wanted to be married to me. We're both young and i knew what he was saying. As much as it hurt me, i gave him his space to figure things out. Things didnt go as smoothly because he had been with another woman during his 'questioning' period. He finaly came to realize that there was no one better then me, for him. I was pregnant and very emotional so it was a hard time but we got through it.
My husband and I will soon have been married for 35 years. It's been difficult. The last 10 years have been very diffucult.
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I am new to this site and thank god I found this, because it's been insightful in helping me navigate and understand my boyfriend's ADHD symptoms and realizing that I am not alone in my feelings of frustration, disappointment and anger.
So, my wife and I have been arguing much less often. In fact - hardly at all. And, we have been having more quality time together. We both remarked on this yesterday - that we are enjoying that we are getting along better. This morning, she said "So, why do you think we have been getting along so well. Have you been trying harder? I said - Yes. She said she wasn't doing anything differently. And I think she was about to ask me what I was doing differently. And I wasn't sure how to answer that, so I said - I really don't want to talk about this right now. She said "Hmmmmm." My gue
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