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Hi everyone,

Today I saw a sign that said "If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging." I felt it so appropriate for what I felt for so many years of my marriage, before the ADD diagnosis and before I finally "got it" and 'stopped digging'. Such great advice, sounds so simple, but it is so hard. Just wanted to share.

My husband suffered heat exhaustion while on the job a couple of weeks ago and ended up in the ER.   Since he was on the job at the time of the heat exhaustion, he was given a drug test.  The drug test came back positive for amphetamines. Well, since he takes Adderall for ADHD and since Adderall is an amphetamine, he was fired last Wednesday.  His supervisor who fired him was very professional and even though my husband explained that he takes this medication for ADHD, since there was no documentation in his file, he was still let go.

I am the non ADD spouse and  I have lost interest in sex (as opposed to the other post with ADD spouses as sex addicts or not interested in sex).  Mr. ADD wants sex often, but I just can't go there because he is so nasty all day long.  He used to have violent outbursts, break things etc. Now, he has that under control but he just has a generally nasty attitude. He seems to always be angry, defensive and snippy.

My husband was recently diagnosed with ADD and is on Adderall for his symptoms (his PCP just prescribed this to him after a 15 minute assessment by the way).  The problem I am seeing is he is having angry outbursts towards me that scare me and I'm not sure what to do.

He thinks that taking his medication will just "fix" him, and has done nothing else to help himself with his problems.  He has a full time job and is suppose to be going to school as well, but I found an email that he had been dropped, so he putting that off too I guess.

Hi,

My husband recently started seeing another psychiatrist for the ADHD.  He started 4 weeks ago and so far little to no results on Strattera, but based on what I've read, it requires some patience.  He believes meds are "just for now" and that his goal is to get off of them (I think he needs to stay on them...).

First I want to say thank you for all the advice and support you have given.  I'm not Christian (I'm Buddhist), but I must say you are an angel and have made me see things differently.  I now realize (and the Dalai Lama's teachings help) that I CANNOT change someone else's behavior, I can ONLY change the way that I respond to the behavior.  So thank you.

I've only been married to my husband for 10 months (Anniversary is in October) and I've known since we started dating 4 1/2 years ago. At the time I just dismissed it as 'oh, everyone now a days has ADHD it's the new big thing' but the more time went by the more I've begun to see it. We have a child together, a 7 month old and since we brought her home it's felt like I'm raising two children, not one. At first I thought maybe I was just being too hard on him about house work, about helping me out with our daughter, but things haven't gotten any better.

I'm new to the forum, although I have been married to my ADHD husband for 10 years now.  I knew when we first got married, he had ADHD, because he told me he was diagnosed with it.  He has been on Adderall for over 6 years now, besides a little weight loss, I cannot tell a huge difference.  I'm not allowed at his Dr.'s visits, therefore, I have no input in the fact that I feel the Adderall is not working.  I feel like his is the worst case senario of ADHD possible.  Our house stays a disaster, we're in debt up to our eyeballs and he still makes extravagent purchases at times, he forgets t