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Many times I am left feeling confused and frustrated because I try so hard to 'understand' and as we all know, this understanding doesn't come easily to us, especially those of us who are just starting down the road to treatment. I suppose it's a good thing we're starting counseling tomorrow...

We have a lot of progress, even if it was 1 step forward and 2 steps back sometimes we always come out of each issue moving forward and there has just been a new and improved understanding of what we both want and need from this marriage in the past 9 monts, since we reconciled.

We are finally starting counseling tomorrow and I am very excited and hopeful about this.

Hopefully, someone can help me with all of this.  Background:  My husband has ADHD - not medicated, but diagnosed many, many moons ago.  He comes from a very unemotional, judgmental family who feels everything he does is not good enough (yes, everything).  I have schizoaffective bipolar type - not medicated until/unless I have bad episodes.  (and yes, we make a lovely pair)  I come from a melodramatic family and I can't even think where to go from there because my family is utter chaos. 

I just saw that Dr . Hallowell will be talking about ADHD and marriage on Sept 16th on the Dr Oz show.  I was so excited to see this!  I saw he was on Dr Phil a long time ago but missed it, so I'm anxious to watch this episode.  I told my ADD husband he needs to watch it with me so we have it set to record.  Just thought some of yall may want to know about it as well!

I have been married for 5 years and me and my husband have gone through so much in those years we have both had affairs I with two guys and him with TWO guys I had no idea that he was bi he cheated on me when I was pregnant with our now 2 year old and I have also been going through all the anger that ADHD can give and probably more, he can be one of the meanest person I have ever met before in my life and even after staying with him through all of that now he doesn't touch,hold,kiss,or make love to me AT ALL my soul is tired of this I have put in 5 years of work for this man and I haven't

Does anyone have any advice or has had to deal with a self medicated spouse? What are the effects of him self medicating? I can’t find much in books and thought maybe someone has experienced this.
I have read a lot of posts here and I am very confused at this point and sad and getting some anxiety. From what I have read it seems like a terrible life of stress and bad communicating.

I am new to this board and hoping to receive some helpful input.   My long term boyfriend has never been officially diagnosed, but he admitted he was probably ADHD not long after we began our relationship.  Shortly after this, I recognized a number of ADHD symptoms in myself which led me to get diagnosed and I am medicated.

HE cannot be diagnosed or medicated for career reasons.  I have suggested going to counseling and we went once but he said he did not want to keep going.  However, so many things are just adding up and frustrating me. 

I am wondering if there are any others out there dealing with ADHD and a history of trauma. My partner has both and is currently untreated. We live very close to Hallowell Centers in MA but need to find a doctor that accepts insurance.

Hello, I'm new here and have been amazed at the amount of comfort I've found in reading other people's messages.  Finally I don't feel so confused and alone!  THANK YOU!!!

Without getting in to too many details, I have had a STRONG suspicion that my husband has ADHD (with a BIG emphasis on the "H"!!!) for as long as I've known him.  Now that I've begun reading things here, as well as reading the book "Is it You, Me, or Adult ADD?", I see SO many traits in him, and the coping skills I've adopted in response to his behaviors, that make me suspect this even more.