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Hi, I'm the spouse of a person with ADD (no HD).  We know that scheduling and a routine could really help dissolve so many of our ongoing conflicts, hurts, and resentments.  Unfortunately, we've discovered that my husband, who has ADD, cannot stick to any one routine or organization system consistently.  He's very creative and likes to invent his own methods.  That's fine, however, he will continually reinvent new ways each and every time.  For example, around balancing the checkbook.  He doesn't have the patience to learn or be taught the recommended way of doing it so he invented his ow

My husband was diagnosed with ADHD a month ago. I have been reading a lot of the information on the site. Some information seems to adjust very well to what we are living, but some doesn't quite fit. My husband has a job which he has kept VERY well. He works hard and is successful. Our family life had always seem fine (13 years). His therapist says he has learned to deal with his condition well, but still has it.

I've been reading a lot of the posts and comments here, I'm amazed by how much ADHD can take over a marriage and encouraged by seeing some folks who are working towards making it work.

I was diagnosed in June 2009.  I will tell anyone that Adderall saved my life.   For 30+ years I felt like I was living in a fog, and now, I feel more normal and more myself than I ever have.  The medication has brought so much clarity.

So what happens when you come out of the fog, and realized that a lot of decisions that you made in the fog (ie, marriage partner) were the wrong ones?

Just married a year, yesterday as a matter of fact and we are separated.  This isn't the first time either, the first time was in November.  I took my husband back under the conditions that he would seek counseling and stop the constant complaining and ignorant comments towards me and my children, but that lasted about a week and gradually progressed into me asking him to leave on the day before Christmas.  So here I sit, not knowing what next........Christmas, New Years and now yesterday our first year anniversary and didn't spend any of it as a family.  He is so stubborn, will not admit

So after almost 4 days of having my DH (almost) back to his old self - I fear that the nasty behavior is creeping back in.  So he was to drop one of our kids at a friends house to play (never been to this house before but its only 2 blocks away and I gave him the full address and directions - verbally twice and I wrote it down). My son calls not 2 mins after they left and asks where the house is? And two seconds later - my DH is yelling in the background (where the F^^^ is the house?

I'm not sure if this is the correct forum for my post but I'm new here and a little overwhelmed by the huge landscape of content here.

I have been married to my ADHD husband for 11 years.  When we were dating once I got to know him I knew he was undiagnosed ADHD from the difficulties he described in school and just from being with him.  He was evaluated and sure enough he was diagnosed.  He started Ritalin and said it helped him with the focus/organization issues. 

Okay, I've just gotta vent about driving, the rules of the road or just sitting in the car!

I was surfing the web today looking for some answers and I found your website, and it immediately looked helpful. My husband has ADHD, I don't. We met in Italy where he was stationed for the military, got married and I followed him here to the States. Our relationship has been pretty good...we have a 1 year old boy and a baby girl on the way. When my son was 10 months old, I was diagnosed with Post Partum Depression. In the months prior to this "discovery", I believe our relationship sunk. The communication stopped and he went looking for attention talking to random people online.

I'm having trouble staying patient with my ADD partner and his moodiness/irritability/anger/impulse control...

I don't know how much of this is *just* ADD...?

He denies it's a problem, of course. ;)