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Hello,

Hello ADHD fan club.

I'm new here.  I've been fairly gunshy about admitting ADD for most of my life...but when originally diagnosed, there was no H yet if it gives you a timeframe as to how long its been.  Like most of us, I can be very high performing at times and sometimes it's best to just crawl back into bed.  Still, over the years I've gotten enough tricks in to be relatively high performing and to put myself into situations where I'll do well and avoid those where I'll fall. 

I guess I don't have anything helpful here. I just want to talk, so I'll try to keep it as brief as I can manage.

My husband is a great dad, really.  We have four teenagers.  He loves his kids, spends tons of time with them, is super involved, etc, and he has always been like this.  His biggest parenting flaw is that his ADHD tends to make him have disproportionate knee-jerk reactions.  If the kids do something wrong, or I have to relate a problem, he tends to over-react, frequently without knowing all the details, and dole out some ridiculous consequence that he'll completely forget about two days later and won't follow through with.  This is a difficult co-parenting situation.  I want him to back me

This is my first post.  Hubs 51 (untreated ADHD but does acknowledge it, mostly jokingly) and I (50) have been married for 11 years, my second marriage (w/ kids), his first.  I've read a lot on this blog and it's helped me to understand so much about how our brains are wired differently and that we don't each act the way we do to drive the other one bonkers.  

My first relationship was ended 2 weeks ago. It was a long distance relationship with my ex girlfriend and we dated for 8 months. I'm 20 from New York and she's 24 from Ottawa (400 miles) about a 6.5-7 hour card ride. We met in person at a discord friend group meet up and we hit it off after a few months of flirting before. I then flew up to visit her for a week in February, and then for 2 weeks in late June/early July. We called every night and watched tv shows together for hours.

I figured out that my hubby has ADHD about three months ago.  We're in our early 40s and have been married almost 19 years.  While he was initially very resistant to the idea and he still adamantly refuses to get a diagnosis or utilize any type of treatment, I keep sharing info I'm learning... and reels.  Oh my gosh!  Reels have been the best way to help him learn about ADHD!  They're short and often humorous and he can identify with them rather than me, as a neurotypical, trying to explain my findings to him...

Here we go again.... another weekend where ADD spouse is MIA. He has a new obsession in which he thinks he's going to die....again... so he is lost in anxiety, depression, internal space, and grumpy attitude to family. Now he thinks his heart is going to stop, even though he visited the doctor (an appointment I had to set up because he wouldn't) and they ran tests and everything was fine. In fact, the normal high blood pressure was actually good....but NO this is another sign he is going to die!!!!

My spouse was newly diagnosed with ADHD about 6 months ago and prescribed adderall. It's been beneficial for them in a lot of aspects of their life (schoolwork, energy levels, help around the house), but they've withdrawn from our relationship 100% and is now contemplating divorce. They claim that they're thriving in all aspects of life except for our marriage and they just don't feel any desire to spend time with me anymore.