But, I don't think I can convince my husband, who doesn't want to admit he has ADD and gets really upset when I say I think this will help us. I really do think this could be THE solution for us. I am tired of taking care of everything and don't want to live being mad all the time, my choice, I know.... but I am really feeling so unimportant.
I want him to join with me in the seminar. Anyone else having this experience?
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I did learn something
It appears to have helped some couples.
Didn't Edison try close to 1,000 materials for the filament for the light bulb before he found the right one?! I had such high hopes the couples seminar would work for us. I have added it to the growing list of things that did not work for us.
I just can't bring myself to say nothing will work.
My spouse is in the process of trying to find himself an ADHD coach.
All the things we have tried as a couple, he has agreed to do as he feels I have lots of issues, so he is willing to go along, by my side, because one of these days I will see the light and realize all our marriage problems stem from me.
He did not read Melissa's book, nor listen to the audio-book version he requested. He did not do the homework. He hears things differently than I do, so even there we get stuck. Recently he told me he didn't listen to the audio-book - because I never copied it onto cds for him. My fault. NOT!
I am one stubborn lady. Here is where I have arrived in my life - my heels are dug in, I love my spouse, and I NEED to know he loves me, respects me, wants me, and hears me. Yes, I have put a lot in his corner. When he steps up and recognizes the chaos the un-addressed adhd traits have caused, then we can move forward.
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