Forum topic: ADHD questionnaire for new doctor very emotional

Sun Sep 13th, 2015 - 2:37pm by sev15

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Progress You are Making and Hope
We are switching doctors right now because of a move. The New doctor is having my husband fill out an ADHD questionnaire before his appointment. It's close to 10 pages so I am helping him out. I didn't realize how hard this would be. He has been in tears several times and we are only half way through. It's asking about traffic tickets and work history and his childhood. Ugh. It kills me to watch him cry and call himself stupid when he sees it all in writing.I feel like this doctor might help but this is hard.We are taking a break from it for now but I just had to do something with these emotions because he needs me to keep it together for him. Blah!

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Submitted by c ur self on Mon Sep 14th, 2015 - 11:29pm

The only way to bring positive change is to identify and deal with the present reality. So many of us have issues that either we don't recognize, recognize and want deal with; ( to painful) .Or, we always us the excuse; I wouldn't be this way if it wasn't for you...So a counselor can have some success if he can get us to look inward and deal calmly with our own actual reality without blame or making excuses..

We humans are all messed up to some degree, but the trick to healing and moving past it, is accepting it and owning it as our own...

Blessings

C

Submitted by overwhelmedwife on Thu Sep 17th, 2015 - 12:35pm

<<< He has been in tears several times and we are only half way through. It's asking about traffic tickets and work history and his childhood. Ugh. It kills me to watch him cry and call himself stupid when he sees it all in writing.I feel like this doctor might help but this is hard. <<<

 

There's no way really for him to get help w/o the truth being "out there"....for your husband to see (and accept) and for the healthcare person to see and treat.

 

 

Submitted by sev15 on Thu Sep 17th, 2015 - 1:19pm

The New doctor was pretty thorough. He went over the form and told him he would recommend some therapy to get thing straight. He kept his meds the same but added an anti depressant 10mg Lexapro. Hubby and I decided that he isn't going to take that though. I personally feel like a person should try the therapy first before adding yet another drug into the mix. Anyway he now has two places he can go through for therapy. We just have to make the time. So far this week we have gone back to him being late for work. Thankfully he was offered overtime so he won't be short on hours but still he didn't even make it two weeks. Hubby told me that he is going to call for an appointment with the therapist after we get our truck fixed. It's some major work and it's our only vehicle so we will be down for a few days. I understand not wanting to start out with someone on that note. So we wait and see. On a happier note he interviewed for a position at his job that is the next level up and was told unofficially that he got it. Just waiting for the official news. It comes with a pay raise and more diversity in the repairs he makes. He's a mechanic.