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  • Next step I'm taking.
    by: J - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    I'm also going to show my SO some articles about this phenomenon and tell her this is what's currently happening with me. I've also found an article specific to women with ADHD and the burnout cycle ( which I'm now more than a little sure she has too ...she's got all the signs....like 10 out of 10 ) and see what she thinks? Wish me luck on that part....we'll see how that goes. J
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  • No us....Swedish Coast....
    by: c ur self - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    What cause's a marriage's to fail so often is there is no US...No human value, and being just a support system, plus the egoistical attitude's toward a spouse are all symptoms of seeking to have a life within a life...I had a wife for many years, (lost to Breast C) and we were an US...There was respect, communication, and there was daily desire to be the One, coming from both of us...There was ownership....We had different likes, and hobbies...But we both loved being the one, the US....There was no hiding...
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  • Burnout Cycle
    by: J - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    I've been reading up on this and the effect it's been having on me and I definitely have most of the symptoms. At the very least, my SO has spotted some of them already and has been pointing them out to me without knowing anything about this cycle. The forgetful part especially which has been a source of irritation at times for her. This isn't just normal ADHD forgetful. It's more like spaced out "thousand yard stare" type forgetful with brain fog. Just yesterday for example, at the end of my work day, I...
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  • I'll come back....
    by: J - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    to this post later once the ghosts have finished visiting me.
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  • https://www.womensaid.org.uk
    by: honestly - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/... this is a UK charity, sorry - but your English is certainly good enough to read the content here! can I draw your attention to myths 1, 10, and 14 in particular. Alcohol is not an explanation, nor are mental health issues, and it is not a brief loss of control. You also are already blaming yourself (you didn't try hard enough to support him with his issues before). Don't blame yourself- and when someone shows you who they are,...
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  • Dear C
    by: Swedish coast - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Thank you for your thoughts. Yes of course. It's my withdrawal of support that brings out the nastiness in him. I think your wife who seems to have acted egoistically for the most part will show this for the same reason. She has naturally been very lucky to have received all this from you, and her life will be  harder now. The blame and depreciation is a bitter pill to swallow, though. Were we just a support system with no human value at all? My husband hasn't been frivolous or taken advantage with joy,...
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  • Thanks C
    by: J - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    I'll come back and fix that. Lol
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  • HI SC...
    by: c ur self - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    Reading you, is like a mirror in some ways...(also I have empathy for you, and respect, for wanting to face all of your feelings head on)...Summing up a lot of what you said in this post and the previous one three days ago...Attempting to simplify what you have stated in these two posts, in my own direct way....(your marriage relationship experience's, along w/ mine and many here) What jumps out overall, is the picture of incompatibility...You talk about your short comings in patience...What I experienced...
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  • Am I missing something...No text on this page?
    by: c ur self - 5 months 4 weeks ago
    When you type out your title in the top box, then put your post in the second box, it will not print...You have to skip a box and type your post in the 3rd box, titled Body...If you already have it typed in the second box, you can cut and paste it into the body box....LOL....think that's right, it happened to me a time or two....
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