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by: J -
So, I'll walk through the steps I took to get to what I feel is at the bottom of what is my RSD, as it is specific to me. This at the very least, one trigger point to consider. I wouldn't be surprised if there's more and I'm sure there is. It started out with me taking an RSD self test on the ADDitude web sight in association with an article I found. They appear to be a credible source I thought? I tend to take these tests because they can be revealing as I always tend to learn something in the process...>>> on Forum topic - RSD...Flipping the Script. Ferreting Out Anger
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by: Peacefull111 -
I also loved my adhd partner so much that I made excuses for his alcoholism. I studied everything I could about adhd and gave him money to try to help and the pain never went away. Neither did the insults he gave me and disrespect. The longer you stick around in an unhealthy relationship the worst it will hurt you. I advise to distance your self now before you end up getting badly hurt as well. I also felt like the strong one at one point because I was neurotypical but over the years this will take a toll...>>> on Forum topic - Rage meltdown ending on physical abuse adhd partner
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by: 1Melody1 -
Ha ha - great minds, Swedish! I so agree with what you've said about self respect as well as growing resentment from feeling silenced.>>> on Forum topic - I was critical and impatient
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by: Swedish coast -
I frankly don't think anyone can be a safety net for another adult's abandon for decades and not be resentful. The task is impossible. Take all the crap and not complain? Who with any self respect would? Especially if for years or decades, there wasn't even a diagnosis to explain why the non should accept it? I dislike that non-ADHD partners are told not to voice their needs. Sure, for years it may look like the non partner can handle the strain and wear. It may seem fair that they shoulder an immense...>>> on Forum topic - I was critical and impatient
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by: 1Melody1 -
I strongly believe that it's wrong for experts to call out non-ADHD spouses for "nagging." It's blame shifting to the wrong party and honestly incredibly sexist since it's usually reserved as a negative term directed at women. The responsibility should be on the party with ADHD to implement systems and address symptoms so they can be more accountable partners. The already traumatized party should not be made to feel even worse for simply communicating simple household needs that are commonplace in any...>>> on Forum topic - I was critical and impatient
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by: 2lawyers -
I am still in the thick of the despair you described prior to ending the marriage. This all sounds so familiar. I read on one of the blogs on this site that I should not nag, ever. And yet I struggle with how to do that. Instinctively I was already doing that, but how it manifests is feeling an inability to say anything at all about anything. I'm afraid it will sound judgmental. It might even truly be judgmental, in a passive aggressive way. My partner's neglected responsibilities are important. I can be...>>> on Forum topic - I was critical and impatient
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by: janapal -
I used to think reading someone's conversations was too low and an ugly thing to do... until I move in with my ADHD partner. He only really stopped with the lying and emotional affairs when I told him I WILL read everything, I will let the other person know I'm reading it and so will their significant other/family/whatever - and followed through with what I said.>>> on Blog post - My Partner is Having an Affair. Now What?
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by: Swedish coast -
It's good that you get out of this. I'm sorry you've had to go through the strain.>>> on Forum topic - Symptoms of ADHD or verbal abuse
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by: charmingtempest -
I want to thank everyone for their thoughtful and non:judgemental input. I am both happy and sad to report that I was forced eventually to block him Happy because I am safe and at peace. I feel the anxiety draining Fromm me day by day. Sad because I said goodbye several times and he just didn't get it. I feel a bit cruel, just taking him off my Facebook and blocking him and all of that and he feels like I lied to him about caring about him and I feel terrible for that but it just wasn't livable...>>> on Forum topic - Symptoms of ADHD or verbal abuse