Sustaining Progress

I don’t normally use these tips to talk about a new program, but this week I’m doing so, because so many of you face this specific issue…

Sustaining progress when one or both of you has ADHD is really HARD!  The symptoms remain and need constant vigilance…changes in your life together – even a vacation – can change the patterns in a way that makes it hard to get back on track.  Or other things just seem to start taking more importance again.  Old habits of interactions or behavior just creep back in.

This is an issue I’ve seen play out over and over again and it can result in feeling hopeless.  The ups and downs of effort can engulf couples even as they really love each other.  Continuing your relationship improvement takes sustained attention – something that those with ADHD, and their exhausted partners, find particularly difficult.

I finally have enough people on my team to start a program I’ve wanted to do for years to address this very issue (yay!!) We’re calling it the Intent to Action Membership Program.  In it we hope to inspire and help you both sustain attention for the long term on the parts of your relationship that you both feel is most important to you.  The program uses a multi-pronged approach tailored to different styles and motivational patterns:

• An always-available, expert-moderated private community for assistance with your efforts, accountability, and to cheer each other on
• Weekly emails with ideas, tips and specific action steps
• Lots of live (by Zoom) office hours with top experts so you can get advice about your particular situation and what you are working on
• Regular topic-based talks about how specific action steps might help you, and how to implement them
• Weekly ‘do that boring thing’ body doubling sessions…
• ‘What’s that tool?’ introductions to specific products and tools that can help you
• And more!

The program starts Feb 17, 2025.  The first 100 memberships will cost only $124 per couple (or individual, if you wish to do it alone) per month.  

We wanted to make it affordable, even though we’re offering a lot of support.

If you wish to learn more or have questions about this program we have a free Zoom-based, live information session at 7:30pm eastern on Wednesday, December 11th.  Program Director, Rachel Ban and I will be there to tell you more and chat with you.

Sign up for the Dec 11th information session.  

Sign up to get an email reminder about registration for the Intent to Action program in early January.  

We hope you continue to learn all you can about how ADHD and responses to ADHD impact both of you…AND… we are ready to be your partners in helping you create the change you’re longing to create.  

With warm holiday wishes to all,
Melissa Orlov

REGISTRATION IS NOW OPEN:

Non-ADHD partner support groups - Be part of a community of people exploring similar issues; learn from each other's successes and struggles; find new, more effective ways to be your best self in your relationship. Group leaders include Tami Anderson, Amy Borla, Lee Crespi, Lisa Magel and Ashley Paradise.  NEW LGBTQIA+ and Consensual Non-Monogamy group!

The ADHD Effect Couples Seminar -  Melissa and senior consultant Ashley Paradise help partners improve their lives together in this premier seminar that has changed the lives of many, many couples impacted by ADHD. This 9-week ZOOM seminar is on Wednesdays, Jan. 22 - March 19, 2025, from 7:30-9:15pm Eastern Time.

Couples support group - Navigating Parent-Child Dynamics. In this group 5 couples will work with Internal Family Systems (IFS) master facilitator, Jason Weber, to understand what ‘parts’ of themselves are participating in the parent-child dynamics. 7 consecutive Tuesdays, starting on January 21, 2025.

SEMINARS, GROUPS:

ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Is your relationship in trouble? My premier, highly acclaimed 9-session zoom seminar has helped many couples thrive in healthier, happier relationships. (registration open, starts January 25, 2025). The Self-Study Seminar is available anytime. Move at your own pace. Includes materials/recordings from the recent '24 live seminar

Non ADHD Partner Support Group (registration open, 4 of the 10 sessions are full) and ADHD New Habit Coaching Group - (Full) Be part of a community exploring similar issues, successes and struggles and find new, effective ways to be your best self in your relationship.

ADHD & Marriage Consulting group - (registration open, ongoing). Are you interested in doing individual or couples work with someone who is an ADHD expert?  This is a group of professionals who understand the issues faced by individuals and couples impacted by ADHD.  We STRONGLY recommend you also take the seminar.

Couples support group - (registration open, starts January 21, 2025). Navigating Parent-Child Dynamics. 5 couples, 90 minutes, seven sessions. Participants obtain a deeper understanding of what drives their Parent-Child Dynamic, and learn how to compassionately move away from it. 

FREE RESOURCES:

Free live information session at 7:30pm eastern on Wednesday, December 11th.  Learn more about the Intent to Action Membership Program with Director Rachel Ban and Melissa;

Weekly email Marriage Tips newsletters;

How to Optimize Treatment for Adult ADHD; 

Downloadable chapters of my books;

A community forum with other couples facing similar issues;

A large number of blog posts on various topics;

Referrals

Social Media: - follow us for tips and resources

ADULT ADHD CAN HAVE A HUGE IMPACT ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life! 

Question? Contact Melissa.