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Hi guys. I need some help. I have been married for a year and my husband has ADHD but is unmedicated. He drinks every day, too. Not only is he unpredictable, like I don't know which version I'm getting that day but also I have noticed he created situations in his head. He can be on a work call (we work together) on speaker and he will make comments like "did u notice this person saying "hey" with an attitude? " and no it was a normal hey. If we go out to dinner or have guests over he accuses me of looking at men in a certain flirtatious  way or that we exchanged looks or comments flirting.

My husband who is separated from me, if his demands aren't met he tends to very passively do something to try and trigger me. Although I have explained why I couldn't do what he asked me to in a calm way, he then took my 5year old daughter to a hairdressers and chopped half her long beautiful hair which I lovingly spend time keeping it nice and healthy.

I'm 6.5 mths pregnant and struggling with a lot of pelvic and back pain this time. It's difficult to sleep, dress,  sit comfortably, walk for more than 30mins etc. My husband (ADHD) and I have been ok for about a year... much better than the horrendously stressful few years that followed the birth of our first child. That's when we started looking seriously at the impact of ADHD on a relationship, and it all made perfect sense. 

Hi, I'm new, I'm female and I have ADHD. I've been married to the same man for over 30 years. This is supposed to be where we share what makes us angry, frustrated and sad. I don't know about angry but...Frustrated. My daughters told me that they think our house is gross, that they're ashamed to have people over and my youngest was teased because of the state of our kitchen. I'm doing my best to clean more and to try to fix up the place. But we don't do renovations. We had to renovate our bathroom and our living room when a pipe burst. We removed carpet after the dogs peed on it.

It's been a while since I posted.  I left off last fall when my wife was finally diagnosed with ADHD and our 12-year-old (now identified as non-binary they) had been repeatedly admitted to psychiatric hospitals.

My partner and I have been together about 8 years.

During most of that time he had a job in the surveying industry, but we've always been poor.

We have twins who are 6 years old who are both neurodivergent, and my son is completely non communicative. 

Over the course of our relationship my partner has cheated on me at least 3 times, and I can confirm at least one time was full on intercourse (because they made a video that I found.)

So my husband who has left me over hardly any issues, suddenly mentioned to me of an incident six years ago where I apparently chased him down the hallway with a knife. I know that did not happen. I said to him why did you not mention this before, he says that's because he didn't want to remind me off it just in case I wanted to do it again. I'm finding this very upsetting, how would I forget something as grave as that but he's so persuasive he makes me doubt my own mind.

How could I be precise about my ADHD partner’s disorder?

Firstly, I'm a Japanese and I'm sorry if my English skill isn't enough to explain my thoughts.

I really would love to understand him as much as I can, accept his everything and love the way he is.
And stay his side whole my life.

So I'd like to talk about what he is bad at and what he wants me to do about things he's bad at.

But would ADHD individuals mind if their partner start the conversation about their disorder?

I have been married for over a decade. He was diagnosed with ADHD a few years after we were married. His work schedule is erratic and grueling because he works on-call and travels, so he explains this as the reason why he doesn't go to therapy. He also simply doesn't like taking medication. I don't believe in ultimatums, so I know my glaring options are to radically accept or just leave. I consider marriage a sacred union, so that means I radically accept my husband. I love him unconditionally.