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Hi! I am new to this community!

My husband has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and everything has clicked into place. We have a typical ADHD marriage with all the issues. Now we know this I have been reading all the articles and books, listening to all the podcasts, joined a support group and have been looking for a couples therapist.

I’m new here and this is my first post. As I work my way through what you’ve all written, I see my life in so many of your posts. I’m on the verge of tears constantly. I’m so over it. I’m hurt, I’m angry, and I’m scared. I don’t know if this can be fixed anymore. I’ve been married to my ADHD spouse for 19 years. About 10 years ago we went to counseling separately and then had one joint session together. Two therapists agreed I’d gone as far in my individual counseling as I could without my husband getting further individual counseling and possibly medication.

My ADHD wife left me and our adopted four year old child about nine months ago.  I'm not sure what else I could have done during our 8 year marriage to make her "happy", in the spirit of making our marriage work  (at her request) I left my career and friends on the east coast to start a family here in the Pacific northwest, moved my elderly mom out here a few years after that and then we adopted an incredible newborn girl who is the light and joy of both our lives.  For 8 years I had been doing the lions share of the housework, we've never been able to talk about money or budget (I managed

I feel for others on this form. After my relationship now ending, I can see how having PTSD with ADHD caused it to be very difficult for me to not become defensive when my partner was acting out his own issues. I am just unable to explain what it is like to have both. From asking him to not suddenly touch me from behind or I Yelp like I might be being attacked to not wanting to watch Gorey tv or gory cartoons. My nerves got shot quickly just from loud then soft volume levels on shows. He just couldn't understand. And unfortunately blamed me in an abusive manner more often than not.

Hello all~

I have been together with this man, he's 37. I'm unsure if he is adhd, and i'm trying to understand what is happening.  After a while i could see Signs that he had adhd and said i thought he was right. Then he wouldn't talk about it anymore and just said he didn't have it and we shouldn't talk about it anymore. He is impulsive, wants to do this and that, and suddenly not. He have a lot of things he does, planning all the time, is very energetic and just the way he talks about things stresses me.

I'm new here - stumbled across this forum when I was looking for ideas for living with a dependent spouse. 

I was diagnosed with ADHD in my mid 30's, and with the diagnoses, allot of my life came into focus, and it did not look good. I receive mental health care through Veteran Affairs, and they will not treat me with medication. I have such a difficult time being present in the moment I miss so much when it comes to my wife, and to a lesser extent my daughter (my daughter and I are hyperactive over the same activities).  

12 months ago I spoke with a friend who was diagnosed with ADHD, we spoke about his symptoms and it all made sense, maybe I had this mystical ADHD thing. Of my own volition, I seeked out a psychiatrist and was soon diagnosed. I seem to recall my wife was against me 'wasting the money', mainly because she was just as clueless about ADHD as I was - before that, I really had no idea about ADHD symptoms at all, I was clueless that I had it. - mainly my sense of underachievement was my reason to get officially diagnosed.  

I have depression and anxiety that I'm seeking treatment for. My husband has add. We are older adults with grown children. I'm looking for hope out there that a marriage can survive this and how.