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Greetings All!

It will soon be a year since I first came to this site with many months in between my last post.  My problems came to a peek when my ADD husband after I left the home began to fight me for the custody of our 2 children.  It truly got as bad as bad could get my “boy next door, good Christian man and best friend” became the most deceptive, malicious and irresponsible man I have ever met.  Despite my fears and pleas for assistance for intervention from “our mutual friends and family” for over 11 years, because I left my husband; I received no assistance. 

Last night I was on this site, I really needed to assess where I am and if I am on the right track with myself emotionally.  Now that my husband and I are no longer together, I see this site as a tie to stay connected to what was my reality.  

I suffer with ADHD hyperactivity and impulsivity.  As a kid, I was diagnosed with ADHD with the same issues when I was in kindergarten.  I took ritalin up until I started high school and my parents took me off of it b/c I became involved in sports.  I graduated from high school and went on to college and graduated.  I am 42 now and am successful in my career.

Having to ask for sex is demeaning.  Having to ask for sex, being told "yes", anticipating intimacy, and then nothing happening is cruel.   Having an ADD partner has it's challenges, but none is more difficult for me than the yo-yo of our sex life.  He and I deal with my life long depression and my medications greatly affect my ability to be aroused.  Consequently our sex life tends to be one sided.  That does not bother me, and I actually get pleasure from watching my husband's pleasure, but sometimes it needs to be my turn.

I am a 29 year old woman diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago.I have been in a replationship for 11 years now , and married for the last year and a half. My husband and I are thinking of having kids and are seeing a marrige counselor now to go through alot of issues before we take that big leap (eek).

But my bigest hold up in this whole process and one I have found extremly limited information about is, if I am taking Adderall (and that lack of info is not just linked to this drug), and I want to get pregnant what should I do.

I am in a rather new but serious relationship with a man who has nearly debilitating ADHD. If he is unmedicated he will go off grid and be unreachable, and contacting me doesn't occur to him. This I understand is not a slight against me and have made peace with it.

We've been married over a year. We really do love each other, I swear. But lately, I'm concerned about how he treats me. He is responsibly addressing his ADHD (I guess) by seeing a doctor. He takes concerta, prozac, and some other drug (recently) for road rage. (I can't believe there even IS such a drug!)

As I read a lot of posts,I see the same issue of the non ADD spouse wondering when enough is enough.My question is a two part one and I am interested to hear what Melissa has to say as well as others thoughts.

At what point do you leave the relationship and when is it considered being codependant and "Unhealthy?"

I was married to my husband for five years.  I was not told by his family of any problems. After we were married I began to notice strange behavior.  He seemed easily frustrated, he was always on the go, he would fly off quickly, he always felt as if he was the lesser person.  After about a year I spoke with family members about him and they told me of his behavior as a child.  He had attempted suscide several times, he would leave school, he was then and still is now a loner.  His social skills are strange to me, He would tell me he felt intimated by me.  His sleeping habits are not good.