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Frustrated non adhd wife

Hi, I have been married with my husband for 12 yrs who has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD since he was 5 years old. We also have a daughter that's also been diagnosed with ADD. For some reason, as he get older, everytime I ask him to do things for me like simple chores: taking the trash out or doing the dishes. He always forgets it. For some reason he always w8 till I'm about to blow up until he does something. When he does finally do it he acts like a child that just got in trouble. Now everything just sets him off.

"As needed"

My wife finally got a prescription for Methylphenid 5mg.  It is a 5mg dose, which I assume is low to start of with and see how it works before building up.

The psychiatrist said she should take it "as needed."  She doesn't know what "as needed" means and has not taken it because she does not feel that she has needed it.  She is also worried about possible side effects.

So confused, exhausted & hurt.

Hello everyone. I am new here. I am so grateful for the internet and that I’ve come across this page and forum. I have been reading so much and a lot of things are starting to make sense now. My story: I’m a non ADHD wife who’s been married for only 11 months. Our journey together has been a ROLLER COASTER. 3 different councilors and finally this 4th one has diagnosed my husband with ADHD. He should be getting on medication writhing a few weeks. I am really praying that this would be the missing piece. I feel like I am in a emotionally abusive relationship, he could be so cold and mean.

New to the group, need some kind of reassurance

Forum: 

I will start by saying I have ADHD, and I a married to a.man who also has ADHD. I am the one who takes on the role of the non-adhd spouse. We have 1 child together. He was diagnosed in childhood but didn't want to stay on meds. He has been on meds.for about a year now.   I was diagnosed in adolescence, stayed on meds for the last 16 years and don't feel as though I have any major struggles with functioning in my day to day life. I am not perfect.  I hate cleaning, and often don't acknowledge or notice messes as they accumulate.

Positive Report from Non ADHD Spouse

I am somewhat new to this forum. I do check it every morning. It has saved me and my marriage. I am grateful to have found Melissa's book and site. I would like to give a positive report from the Non ADHD spouse to give possible hope to others. 4 months ago I had no hope and was planning my escape in my new marriage of almost 3 years. I went from depression, severe anxiety, anger and bitterness to content and hopeful in the last 4 months. I read Melissa's book last year. I was still bitter and resentful. My husband then got medicated which we are still fixing.

Help - Parenting with an ADHD Partner

I need help and I do not know where to turn. I am at the point where I have become resentful of my spouse and my resentment builds inside with frustration and then comes out in unhelfpul ways. And I acknowledge that this is one of the pieces of the puzzle. But I need help beyond that. My partner and I have been married for 7 years, and we have a 5 year old son. We were living abroad while I did my phd and returned home recently and my wife resumed her medical work while I transitioned into work too.

Question on low sex drive for ADHD Husband

First let me say I love this forum. It has saved me the last few months of wanting to walk out of my marriage. I have felt no so alone and understood for the first time.  I am the Non ADHD Spouse and married almost 3 years to my recently diagnosed ADHD Husband. The last month I have waived the white flag and decided I needed to accept the reality of my marriage and my relationship.

Inattentive ADHD. Consequences for Their Actions That Harm Others.

Hello ADHD Marriage.  I really hope you allow this to post.  I'm in a great deal of emotional pain.  I need others to know what it's like being a non ADHD.  I'm not blaming.  I know I have work to do.  Yet, I am experiencing some hard times.

I have a friend and business partner who has ADHD.  I've known him for 23 years.  We are in business together and we cannot separate the business for financial reasons. 

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