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Can anybody explain to me why whenever I say I have been watching a TV program (a series perhaps) that I have been enjoying and think my ADHD husband would like to, does he berate and put down the program within the first 10 minutes of me showing it to him, and start abusing me for being so stupid as to think it's good?  He then goes off on a rant for the next hour about all the problems in the world and the world is full of stupid people like me watching these programs.  (The program in question was actually a really high quality, multi-award winning British crime series,l not some sitcom or Love Island!!).  This then results in me changing the program over to something else which invariably is something he wants to watch.  He's ruined the evening by then and I go to bed.  Mmmm ..l always happens on a Saturday night!!   If he doesn't want to see it, why not just say so?!  Anyone else experienced this?  

Diagnosis finally happened....only it's not what we originally thought. 

I don't know how to not react to my husbands tone.  He is hyper vigilant and on my case all the time.  I am considering recording him to prove to him that his tone is too much! What to do?

Hello everyone, this is my first post here. I have read the "ADHD effect" book and it was a revelation.

Hi,

I have a question and maybe people around here have similar experiences. Forgive my lack of English, I'm Dutch. I'm a 39 year old man, just diagnosed with ADHD and in the middle of a rollercoaster of acceptance and other things.

About 11 months ago my girlfriend mentioned that i might have ADHD. Looking at my problems, sometimes angry out of nothing and my impulsivity, Next to the hyperactivity. The day after we spoke about it I made an appointment for diagnostic. But it would last 10 months for my appointment. 

My ADD husband and I used to have a lot of good friends. We saw friends all the time. I felt we were sought after because we brought fun to gatherings.

A couple of decades later, this is all gone. I have grieved it immeasurably. For many years, before diagnosis, I couldn't understand why it happened. My charming and kind husband started to withdraw from social events and became afraid to speak on the phone. He lost his confidence. I then lost my confidence, because it seems nothing makes you as vulnerable socially as a weakened partner. 

(Im non ADHD F28) My (ex) partner has non diagnosed ADD(F29), 2 months ago she came to me and said she believed she has adhd, I was in the middle of intense study, so we looked at getting tests done to find out it’s was $4.5k! We didn’t have that at the time and I also needed to apply for a new visa (too many big money bills) so we tried to get a DR appointment which was a bit of a wait and then I went back to focusing on my study. 

Hi all, this is my first time posting anything like this and I'm looking for some advice. As of recently the world as I know it has been turned upside down. In hindsight many of these things have been brewing for a while but it just seemed so sudden. I'm 40 travel during the week for work. We do well enough for my wife to stay home kids, dogs etc. We just purchased a camper as I've been dispatched to a job in an area that would be nice for that sort of thing and that way we can all be together after work.

My husband and my son both have adhd. My son was a huge handful to raise. We worked 100x harder raising him than we did our daughter. We managed to keep him on track fairly well while he lived with us throughout grade school. After he left for college (10 hours away) he became a drug addict. Two years ago he took LSD and went into a deep state of psychosis. He stayed in psychosis for several months and spent 20 days in a mental hospital. He has relapsed several times since then and had another bout of psychosis after using edibles. As you can imagine, it's been a chaotic nightmare. 

My husband has asked me to make a list of how he SHOULD respond because he doesn't read my cues, wording, or responses well. I've felt like he has completely disregarded my feelings and opinions for years because he would usually do what he wanted even after he asked me what i wanted to do, then therewould be a big fight and he would say he didn't think it was that big of a deal to me.