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My husband has ADHD.  Yesterday it turned out again that he forgot to turn off the auto-renewal of the unnecessary service, and a sum of money was deducted from us just like that.  Because it ignores warning messages.  I was on nerves all day yesterday.  Today I was involved in a traffic accident.  And it turned out that my husband mixed up the dates and we don’t have car insurance for this week.  We'll have to pay for the repairs yourself.  This has been going on for many years.  He doesn't exercise, he doesn't meditate, he doesn't take any obvious steps to work with his ADHD.  At the same

After a 15month trial separation, i filed for divorce. Its over or maybe the fight has just begun. 

From the point of realising he had ADHD It took him 3months to get a diagnosis, a further 6months to get medicine and 10months to start therapy. I started therapy may 2022, he started september 2023. He let me fight all alone. If it was important to him, he would have tried.

On the 3rd, she sat me down and told me it she was ending things. I'm acting the way I wish I can look back and be proud of. We have a daughter, 3 years old, were both exhausted, we have had other emotional issues going on and I can't stop trying to talk about them because I felt her pulling away so I chased after her. I've made every mistake possible, then began the ADHD effect on marriage yesterday and it's so triggering because it's just too late, but so accurate.

My husband is self-employed.  He runs a fairly successful business and we usually do pretty well.  He had a charge back on a popular vendor website a long time ago, it recently caught up with him and they shut his shop down.  The amount was quite high and he has not been able to pay it back yet so he can reopen his shop.  We process all orders through our own website and processors now, but the vendor site was his main advertising.  He hasn't had a sale since early November and we're starting to feel the squeeze.  That's not to say he hasn't had any interest.  There are still plenty of inqu

Today I almost broke down when I met my ex-husband shortly. Even though I reminded myself what he's done, and kept my boundary. He came at me smiling, kind and glowing.

So this is who I've divorced. The man whom I've loved for so long. Excuse me, Cantgoback who said the other day that I'm codependent and wrong to call it love. 

We are homeowners.  Things need repair.

Can the very intelligent man that is my husband stop suggesting that his young sons (who of course have no repair experience) fix the problem, without his help or direction?  

Just had to tell the people who understand the things that are said and done to avoid the boring tasks that adhd brains don't enjoy.  

I just wanted to say that I still read up on posts on the forum and that for anyone wondering what its like a year after the parting .. this is my second Christmas alone. 

Although I've been seeing a therapist for the last 8 years, and have worked on processing everything that took place during 30 years with My severe adhd ex, it's still hard to deal with sometimes and it still affects me and my thought process.

I can say that I have peace, peace of mind, and some acceptance of certain things, but I must say that it's really hard to mentally let go of some things. And I still deal with the problem of catching myself wondering, out of 30 years, what was real and what wasn't. I can't say if I will ever completely get over all of it, and move on without it affecting me,  my life, and how I see others.

I'm really grateful that this forum exists, and it's like a shoulder to lean on even if it's just to read what others have gone through or are going through. 

I hope everyone is have a great day, a Merry Christmas, and has an even better New Year.

I am looking for some advice. My ADHD partner treats me badly and when I ask that she checks her tone before she speaks to me, I am met with silence, cold shoulder and sheer distension towards me. Her words are harsh, rude, short, often aggressive and cause me to retreat for my own Mental health and wellbeing. Since her diagnosis, every little thing is about ADHD and it often feels like because of her diagnosis, she has a free pass to speak and treat me however she wants to. I don't know how to love her anymore.

I was meaning to write this over a week and half ago and my own challenges kept me from doing so - as the non-ADHDers, you know the one I'm talking about: when something good happens, it's really hard to celebrate it bc you know something disappointing is right around the corner. But I thought to myself just now, 'just write the good thing anyways as this might help you and someone else to see that there CAN be joys in this type of marriage'.